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NEWS: Tatsuhisa Suzuki Posts Apology with OLDCODEX's Future Still Uncertain

This is just standard procedure. I'm sure he knows there are people who won't believe his apology. He made a conscious decision that affected the lives of others. His wife and his band. I still want him to sing and voice act, but the fake apology doesn't do it for me.

I hear this a lot whenever there's celebrity drama - "the apology is insincere, it doesn't mean anything, they're just saying it because they want everyone to forget about what they did" - so what the hell do you want him to do? Prostrate himself on the ground in front of a press conference? Wouldn't that be even more "fake"? Never release any apology and continue his career as if nothing ever happened? Wouldn't you criticize him for that as well? Damned if you do, damned if you don't???

I feel like you people don't know what you actually want, you just want to say that everything they do is "not enough, not enough", as if they have to come and beg for your forgiveness in person. Truth is he doesn't have to apologize to us at all we are not entitled to any apology because... this is his private life, it has nothing to do with us??? Sure his wife, bandmates, colleagues, they deserve an apology but he could do one privately. This is his genuine, good faith promise to do better, to not cause any trouble to the people he works with, and you - we all - are welcome to hold him accountable if he doesn't deliver on it. But if he's stating that he realizes how much he messed up, how much damage he caused and how much he regrets it and wants to do better, can't we have the absolute minimum good faith and assume that he means it? Unless of course he does something to prove that it was fake, but why is it so hard to believe that yeah, someone might actually be remorseful when they've done something bad? Just because they're a celebrity? It's adultery, for pete's sake, and y'all are treating it like murder.

Well, I mean, he has a long history of cheating and has consciously done so multiple times.

Excuse me, now he has "a long history", when we barely even have proof he slept with ONE girl? Damn, it's almost like you can say anything about a guy once you've determined him to be the "villain".

I'm not saying anyone has to support him if they don't want to - I'm saying: don't act like he has to beg for your forgiveness when you've already decided you're not going to forgive him no matter what, that's all.

If he didn't cheat, the statement would not be worded this way. Also, the photos that Bunshun took of them? You can say they were taken out of context but the girl he cheated with also posted on Twitter about their affair. She was not only his co-worker but she was also his fan.

I can't say the same for everyone but I can understand why people don't seem to think his apology is genuine. He seemed pretty okay with cheating up until he got caught.

Ming Yi wrote:

If he didn't cheat, the statement would not be worded this way. Also, the photos that Bunshun took of them? You can say they were taken out of context but the girl he cheated with also posted on Twitter about their affair. She was not only his co-worker but she was also his fan.

Well I'm sorry, I think there's a huge difference between "he cheated on his wife once" and implying that he's had several affairs by saying he has "a long history". It's your statement - you can choose how you word it.

Also the fact the girl was a fan and was tweeting about it honestly puts the whole thing into question for me. If she was a fan and she was working with him, obviously she'd want other fans to be jealous and believe that she's closer with him than she actually is - crazy fangirls (or at least crazy enough to publicly announce your affair with a married man because honestly what was she expecting?) are not above lying for attention. The girl is clearly not okay in the head if she thought this was going to end well for her.

Ming Yi wrote:

I can't say the same for everyone but I can understand why people don't seem to think his apology is genuine. He seemed pretty okay with cheating up until he got caught.

"He's only sorry because he got caught" is such a stupid rhetoric - yeah, people don't do bad things with the things with the intention of being caught! That doesn't mean the remorse isn't genuine. Besides, Japan has a huge cheating culture - what do you think all those love hotels are for? Many Japanese men cheat and the vast majority get away with it with their wives never finding out, and therefore never being hurt by it. It sucks, but it's true. Arguably doubly true for celebrities who have many girls always ready to open their legs for them. When it's so normalized, you don't stop to think "wait, maybe this is a bad thing that could hurt me and my wife", you think "well, everyone else gets away with it, why shouldn't I have some fun?" Only once the damage is done do you realize that just because something is common doesn't mean it's okay, that it was stupid to throw your marriage away and shoot your career in the foot for some mediocre extramarital sex. It sucks, but celebrities are flawed humans too and they make big stupid mistakes like the rest of us, I really don't understand why that fact seems to escape human comprehension, and they're either painted as angels who can do no wrong or demons who are evil cheaters and nothing else.

Good people make bad choices sometimes - we all have our sins and regrets, who are we to judge?

Well I'm sorry, I think there's a huge difference between "he cheated on his wife once" and implying that he's had several affairs by saying he has "a long history". It's your statement - you can choose how you word it.

Besides, Japan has a huge cheating culture - what do you think all those love hotels are for? Many Japanese men cheat and the vast majority get away with it with their wives never finding out, and therefore never being hurt by it. It sucks, but it's true. Arguably doubly true for celebrities who have many girls always ready to open their legs for them. When it's so normalized, you don't stop to think "wait, maybe this is a bad thing that could hurt me and my wife", you think "well, everyone else gets away with it, why shouldn't I have some fun?" Only once the damage is done do you realize that just because something is common doesn't mean it's okay, that it was stupid to throw your marriage away and shoot your career in the foot for some mediocre extramarital sex. It sucks, but celebrities are flawed humans too and they make big stupid mistakes like the rest of us, I really don't understand why that fact seems to escape human comprehension, and they're either painted as angels who can do no wrong or demons who are evil cheaters and nothing else.

Good people make bad choices sometimes - we all have our sins and regrets, who are we to judge?

You're trying to justify the actions of a man in his late 30s who is able to decide for himself and is fully cognizant of his actions.

Ming Yi wrote:

You're trying to justify the actions of a man in his late 30s who is able to decide for himself and is fully cognizant of his actions.

I'm sorry do you become infallible and stop making mistakes when you hit your late 30s, is that how it works?